アイデアフォライフIdeas for life

”ビジネス、人生に生きる情報メモ帳” 海外在住。会社経営。不動産・ビジネス・経済・哲学・心理学・脳科学・建築・地球環境・教育・歴史に興味あり。人生のメモ帳、戒め帳として綴っています。誤字脱字、中途半端な解説あり。

2018年06月

パッションは探すものではなく、ついて来るもの。

パッションは計画ではなく、フィーリング。今日パッションがあった事も明日はなくなることもある。あなたのパッションは何ですか?と聞かれることがよくあるけど、ビルの窓拭きをしている人は窓を綺麗にすることにパッションがあると思いますか?

商業ローンのオフィサーの心得の一つに、do not loan money to someone following their passion. Now loan it to someone who wants to start a business, the more boring the better. パッションを追いかけている人にお金を貸してはならない、ビジネスを始めようとしている人、その中でも最上なのは、つまらないビジネス、つまらないビジネスほどお金を貸す相手としては最適と言うのがあるように、パッションとはそう言うものなのです。

where your energy and effort meet someone else’s need. That’s when you realize passion lives and realizing what you have to contribute. What do you think when you ask what they are passionate about, they say helping other people. 

パッションとは探すものではなく、短ににあるもの。あなたのエネルギーが他の人が必要としている事に出会う時、人の役に立つ時に生まれるものなのです。パッションは探すものではなく、あなたの行動の後からついて来るものなのです。

 

The day I got laid off from my job at Martha Stewart I was relieved. I loved the job. I really did but the relationship was over and I didn’t know how to end it and then it broke up with me. At the time I’ve been also hosting a radio show for the Martha Stewart brand on SiriusXM and then not long after that got canceled too.

On the day of my last show I got onto the elevator at the 36th floor and as it started to drop, I started to cry. Every floor took me further and further from what I had been, a magazine editor, a radio host, the person with the cool job to talk about at parties. And honestly, I had no idea what I was going to do and quite frankly no one was looking for me. So I did what anyone would do in that situation. I was making some phone calls, hey, what are you up to, that I mention I’m available. I needed to get paid to do something, right? I mean, I live in New York City. If you’re not paid to do something, you’re not going to be there very long.

With this idea that I had to know when I was supposed to do now, is to pursue this passion. It just bugged me. It always had and that’s because there’s a dangerously limiting idea at the heart of everything we believe about success and life in general. And it’s that you have one singular passion and your job is to find it and to pursue it to the exclusion of all else. And if you do that, everything will fall into place. And if you don’t you fail.

The pressure starts really young and it goes your whole life but it’s perhaps most pronounced when you’re graduating from school, right? Wow, the world at your feet, what are you going to do now? And it’s so intimidating it’s like picking a major for life. I had a hard time picking a major for four years and I changed that once if not twice. I mean it was like just intimidating. And this compelling, I mean this really forceful cultural imperative to choose your passion is stressful to me but it’s not just me. Everyone I talked to agrees with me. The woman who sold me this dress, I told her what I needed to dress for when I was talking about and she said, oh my gosh, I really need to hear this talk because I just graduate from school, my friends and I we don’t know what we’re passionate about. We don’t know what we’re supposed to do.

"I’m leery of passion for a few reasons. But one of them is that passion is not a plan. It’s a feeling and feelings change. They do. You can be passionate about a person one day, at a job and then not passionate the next. We know this and yet we continue to use passion as the yardstick to judge everything by, instead of seeing passion for what it really is, the fire that ignites when you start rubbing sticks together. Anyway I was such a mess when I was in my twenties, such a mess, I was anxious and depressed and had no life to speak of. I was tempting to keep my options open and I was sitting around at night in my underwear watching Seinfeld reruns, actually I still do that, that’s not the worst thing in the world to do. Fine.

But I called my mother every night crying and I was turning away perfectly good fulltime jobs, why because I was afraid. I was sure that I would pick the wrong one and get on the wrong train headed to the wrong future. My mother begged me to please take a job, any job, you’re not going to be stuck. You’re stuck now. You don’t create your life first and then live it. You create it by living it, not agonizing about it. She’s right, she’s always right.

And so I took a full time job as an assistant at a management consulting firm where I knew nothing about nothing. Okay, zero. Except I knew I had a reason to get up in the morning, get showered, leave the house and people who are waiting for me when I got there. And I got a paycheck every two weeks and that is as good a reason to take a job as any. Did I know that — if I want to be an office administrator for the rest of my life? No, I had no idea, truly. But this idea that everything you’re supposed to do should fit into this passion vertical is unrealistic. You show me someone who washes windows for a living and I will bet you $1,000,000 if not because he has a passion for clean glass.

One of my favorite columns is a piece by Dilbert creator Scott Adams. He wrote a piece in The Wall Street Journal few years ago about how he failed his way to success and one of his jobs was as a commercial loan officer. And he was taught specifically: do not loan money to someone following their passion. Now loan it to someone who wants to start a business, the more boring the better.

 Adam says that in his life success fueled passion more than passion fueled success. When I got my first job as a magazine editor in publishing, I was thrilled. But I had to take a pretty big paycut because at the time I’d been a catalog copywriter at a Wig Company. Laugh if you will, clearly you are and many many people did. But Wigs paid and so I had to figure out a way to make some money. So a friend of mine invited me to a jewelry party and I said what is a jewelry party? She said it’s like tupperware but with bracelets. I said, okay, got it.

I went and I had the best time. I was there hanging out trying on jewelry and the salesperson’s having a great time and I was like, that’s a job. I could do that. I mean really she seems to be having a great time. Now I had no background in sales — Girl Scouts, and I was terrible and I had no passion for jewelry. I mean honestly my earrings cost $20 combined all of them and then I was like I think I can fling silver jewelry to suburban moms drinking daiquiris. Yes, I could do that.

And so I did it, I signed up, I became a jewelry designs rep and listen to me I was not setting the world on fire away, really. I was so like awkward and afraid of selling, and I got better, I got better. I started making some money. I started getting really passionate about it, not just because of the money but because what I realized is people bought at the stuff. They were happy to pay for it. I sold so much jewelry that year. I won a free trip to St. Thomas. I eventually let my jewelry business go because my career path shifted, but I was so glad that I did that because it planted an entrepreneurial seed I didn’t know was there and that bears fruit to this day.

Now as you know, an entire cottage industry has sprung up around helping people find their passions, write books, coaching, webinars, whatever and their heart is in the right place, it’s great. I’m all about self-discovery. But when you ask someone what’s your passion, it’s triggering. It’s like upsetting, like oh my god, I have to come up with a good answer for this.


One of my friends is in her mid-forties and she’s looking at like what’s her life going to be now. And she’s like I don’t know what I’m passionate about. And she is legitimately concerned about this. She’s ready to hire a team of people, it’s like why are we worried about this, you know why, because you think something’s wrong with her. I felt something was wrong with me when I was in the seventh grade and everyone was really in this like the rock bands and their actors and they would carve the names of those bands in the tables at the library. And I never carve anything because I couldn’t think of anything to carve. I mean I liked Bon Jovi as much as the next girl but not enough to deface school property. That’s probably why I don’t have any other — I don’t have any tattoos either, I’m assuming that’s boring. It’s really boring, I thought something was wrong with me but that’s the fear, isn’t it, that when someone asks you at a party, on a date, at a job interview, what are you passionate about, that you’re not going to have this wow compelling answer, and that that means you’re not interesting or ambitious or that you don’t have a singular obsession or scary talent that you are hiding, and that your life is not worth living and that’s not true.


Passion is not a job, a sport or a hobby. It is the full force of your attention and energy that you give to whatever is right in front of you. And if you’re so busy looking for this passion, you could miss opportunities that change your life. You could also miss out on great love because that’s what happens when you have tunnel vision trying to find the one. We all think we know the kind of person we are and the kind of person we could love. But sometimes we’re wrong, blissfully wrong.


And sometimes you don’t know what you’re going to do next, right? I mean I don’t, I love not knowing what I’m going to be doing five years from now or what I’ll be into. And that’s okay, it’s okay not to know. You know why, because the most fulfilling relationships, the most fulfilling careers are those that still have the power to surprise you. And as for the things you know you want to do, you want to write a book, you want to start a business, you want to change careers, great. But if you’re sitting around waiting for passion to show up and take you there, you’re going to be waiting a long time. So don’t wait, instead spend your time and attention solving your favorite problems. Look for problems that need solving. Be useful, generous. People will thank you and hug you and pay you for it and that’s where passion is, where your energy and effort meet someone else’s need. That’s when you realize passion lives and realizing what you have to contribute. What do you think when you ask what they are passionate about, they say helping other people.

So don’t wait. Listen to my mother. Just start doing because to live a life full of meaning and value, you don’t follow your passion. Your passion follows you. Thank you.


Stop searching for your passion-Terri Trespicio
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6MBaFL7sCb8


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(脳はあなたを守るために、楽な方、経験したことのある安全な道を選ぶように出来ている、未知の世界へ飛び込めないようにする役割を果たしている。つまりモチベーション本を何冊読んでも、セミナーにいくらお金を出しても無駄、モチベーション本やビジネス本の大半はポルノと同じく、お金で瞬間だけ気分をよくするものである。あちこちの本を引用して作られるそれらの本は、数冊読めば十分。いまのあなたに必要なのは脳より早く行動すること)



Mel Robbins on Why Motivation Is Garbage | Impact Theory

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LCHPSo79rB4


How to stop screwing yourself over Mel Robbins TEDxSF

I think steve jobs left a mark on our lives.......
Steve jobs biggest gift to us was is actually his wisdome, his words of inspiration
that he shared with interviews, or his speeches or in his interactions.

Steve jobs said the you should never start a compnay with the goal of getting rich.
It should be about starting a company to make something you believe in.
We should dream to make a difference.
Break down boundaries.
Build beyond borders.
and ignite ideas to innovte incessantly.
and create for people what they could never conjure up themselves.
Henry Ford said that "if I'd asked people what ehey wanted they would've said faster horses"
That's the beauty of going beyond wanting money.
Going beyond wanting fame.
Going beyond wanting power.
That you actually craft something that involves people's daily lives.
That you actually create something that enhances someone's human experience.
People respond to people who want to do more than just gain for themselves.
We're attracted by selflessness.
We're attracted by renunciation.
We're attracted by the quality of when people want to give rather than take.
When they want to share rather than keep.
When they want to do and serve rather than just hold.
Steve Jobs said " Being the richest man in the cemetary doesn't matter to me"
What matters to me is going to sleep feeling like we've done something wonderful"


Steve Jobs speach
 " When I was 17, I read a quote that wen something like..
if you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right
if made an impression on me. And since then, for the past 33 years,
I've looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself
" if today were the last day of my life, would I wanna do , what I 'm about to do today?"
and whenever the aswer has been "No" for too many days in a row,
I know I need to change somehting.Don't be trapped by dogma.
Which is living with the results of other peoples thinking.
Don't let the noise of others opinions drown out your own innner voice.
and most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
Everything else is secondary."

We all have hidden potential.
We all have sacred space.
and therefore, we're not material beings having a spiritual experience, but
spiritual beings having a material experience.
and actually,it's like what C.S. Lewis said,
" You don't have soul, you are the soul and you have a body."
He believed that our intuition was far more powerful than our intellect.
When we actually become silent and calm within,
we're actually able to hear clearly.
The only wayt to do great work is to love what you do.
and your time is limited so don't waste it living someones else's life.
Albert Einstein said " Everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree,
 it will spend it's whole life thinking that it's stupid. Rather then imitate and emulate
we can actually create a unique occupation. A unique service to the world.
unique offering that can actually drive a difference in ohter people's lives.
that's what he sad 
 
 " The one's that are crazy enoght to believe that they can change the world, are the one's who do"

Life lesson with steve jobs & Jay shetty
 

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